No matter how carefully you plan or how organized you are, when you take on the responsibility of being a family caregiver for your aging loved one, elements of your life have to change. You will be devoting time and energy to caring for your senior, which means time has to be taken away from other aspects of your life. This can be particularly challenging for your children. Children may not understand why their grandparent needs care, or why you need to be the one to give them that care. This can put a strain on your relationship with your children, or simply cause you stress as you miss them and the time you have with them. Finding simple ways to stay connected to your children during your care experience relieves your stress and improves your mental and emotional health. It also reassures your children and it keeps your relationship stronger.
Some simple ways to stay connected to your children during your care experience include:
- Choose one day a week or every other week that is set aside to do something with them. Put this on the calendar just like you would any other activity, appointment, or obligation, and honor it just as you would any of these. Utilize respite home care if needed to ensure you can focus completely on your children and not worry about your senior’s needs.
- Be sure you take the time each day to give your children a hug and let them know how important they are to you. Just these moments of connection can reassure your children and keep up your relationship.
- Keep doing the little things that you have always done for them. You may think they don’t notice small touches such as you writing a note on their napkin to bring to school with them for lunch or always making sure they have the snacks that they appreciate or your bedtime routines together. These little things, however, are likely very important to your children and a defining aspect of your relationship. Make sure you continue to do these things for your children throughout your care efforts so they will not feel as though you have chosen your parent over them, or that they are no longer important to you.
- Encourage them to be a part of caring for your parent. While you don’t want to put a tremendous amount of responsibility and burden on your children or have them handle tasks that are sensitive, getting your children involved in this care can be beneficial for them and for you. Letting them see what you do can make it easier for them to understand your care responsibilities, and getting them involved can make them feel important and build character.
Being a good family caregiver doesn’t mean having to take on all of the challenges and responsibilities yourself. In reality, one person handling all of the tasks and responsibilities of caring for a senior, particularly if they are also raising children, maintaining a career, and fulfilling other responsibilities, can be virtually impossible. Seeking out help not only ensures your senior’s needs will be managed in the most effective and meaningful ways possible, but also that you can take care of yourself as well. Being a family caregiver can be very stressful, which can lead to mental, emotional, and physical health complications. Relying on a home care provider relieves stress and boosts your quality of life as well as that of your senior.
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She became a discharge planner and immediately fell in love with the concept of home care and the autonomous clinical practice it affords nurses. Dr. Lucy was hooked and has been a strong supporter of home care ever since.Believing people need advocates in healthcare systems, she has championed that cause across the acute care and post-acute care setting.
Dr. Lucy has worked in every aspect of home care from Medicare Certified, DME, Infusion, Hospice and finally Private Duty/Private Pay services. She also works as a home care consultant across the country and as a legal nurse consultant for the home care industry.
Having worked in all areas of home care, Dr. Lucy has a well-rounded perspective of the challenges facing patients, families and the home care industry, and as a provider she advocates for patients through the maze of health care services. Dr. Lucy celebrated over 37 years as a nurse and patient advocate.
Dr. Lucy has a Baccalaureate Degree in Nursing from Lewis University, Romeoville, Illinois.In 1994, she received her Masters of Science in Health Service Administration from St. Mary's University, Moraga, California. Dr. Lucy received her Doctor of Nursing Practice awarded in 2016, graduating with Distinction and a 4.0 GPA.
She did her doctoral work on the global dementia crisis, aging and prevention strategies for healthy living. Developed dementia and Alzheimer's disease plans for aging patients leaving the hospital setting or entering long-term care or home health and hospice environments. She also developed a specialized program for those at risk for dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.
In 1992, Dr. Lucy was designated CAHSAH Certified Home Care Administrator in the inaugural offering of this designation through the California Association for Health Services at Home (CAHSAH).
She is the founder and CEO of Creative Solutions Home Care Consulting Services and At Your Service Nursing & Home Care, a concierge nursing & home care agency that provides the services she believes are essential for seniors to age in place.She offers a higher level of care allowing people to be in their own homes with an emphasis on independence, safety, and quality of life.
Dr. Lucy is the Vice Chair of the Board of Directors for the National Association for Home Care and Hospice (NAHC) and sits on the Board of Directors for California Association for Health Services at Home (CAHSAH).
She has served on the boards for both state and national board associations, and is currently on the following boards and committees: Board of Directors, California State Association for Health Services at Home (CAHSAH), 2002-present, National Association for Home Care and Hospice (NAHC's) Private Duty Home Care Association Director, and multiple state and national home care committees.
Dr. Lucy goes to Washington, DC, several times a year to advocate for senior services and home care issues. She was past Commissioner for the Sonoma Commission on Human Rights.She is past chair of the local Senior Advocacy Services.
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