Does your elderly loved one resist help from others? Do they often say that they can do everything on their own? Maybe you offer to help and they just turn around and walk the other way. If your elderly loved one is resisting help from you, it could be because they are ashamed that they need help. If that is the case, they may be more open to accepting help from professional caregivers. In the meantime, there are some tips that may get your elderly loved one to be more accepting of your help.
Let Them Do Things By Themselves
Maybe you are trying to help too much. Your elderly loved one might not want to accept your help because you are trying to take over. This can cause them to have feelings of embarrassment, upset, and other negative emotions. However, if you let your elderly loved one do things by themselves, they may feel better about the help they do need. For instance, if your elderly loved one can fold laundry, but they can’t use the washer or dryer, just offer to help with the part they can’t do.
Use Statements More Often Than Questions
If your elderly loved one has always been self-sufficient, they aren’t likely to change the way they do things now. For instance, if you ask your elderly loved one if you can help them with the dishes, they might say no. This is because they have always done things on their own and they don’t want to accept help. However, if you were to tell your elderly loved one that you are going to do the dishes before they go to bed, you aren’t asking. This shows your elderly loved one that you want to help and not that they necessarily need the help.
Go At This Slowly
If your elderly loved one is resistant to the help that you are offering, go slower with this process. Maybe they feel like you are trying to take over too quickly or too much. If you feel that your elderly loved one needs a lot of help, start by taking over something small. For instance, you could help with driving them to appointments, before you take over things in their home. If they do need more help right away, but they won’t let you help, you can hire caregivers to do these things. Your elderly loved one might be more apt to letting someone they don’t know help than someone in their family.
These are some of the ways that you can get your elderly loved one to accept your help. If your elderly loved one is resistant to your help, you might suggest hiring professional caregivers. Many elderly people are more willing to accept help from people outside of their family.